Tuesday, February 16, 2010


Last night, my favorite / only boyfriend proposed to me.

And I said yes.

Believe me when I say that I am more surprised than you are.

We went out for a walk near the forest (it is not a real forest, more like a tree lined park but in Japan, we take what small forests we find and we call them forests) with hot tea in our hands.

Suddenly, he looked at me and said, "I really love you. Do you know that?" and I said that I did. Then he said, "We'll probably get married someday. What do you think about that?" and I jokingly said I thought it was a very good idea.

Then he looked at me seriously and said, "really?" Then when I nodded yes, he put this shiny ring on me and really proposed to me. I can't believe that he actually did it. I said yes and then we both started crying. So that's the end of that sappy story. (although it is not sappy for me, really because for me I am very happy and it is a beautiful story!! And it's my blog, so you just have to put up with sappy stories sometimes. ;)

So there you have it. I am engaged now and I'm going to marry the most handsome, interesting, smart, funny man I know.

So I guess this is the end of this blog. I hope that you respect my need/desire to start from fresh with this blog. That is why I deleted the old posts. I am so grateful for all your kind comments and fun interactions. I'm so glad to have found a few of your wonderful blogs and I will keep reading and commenting on them, of course! Whenever you want, drop me an email in this post and tell me how you are doing.

Please keep in touch. Please keep enjoying your life in Japan or wherever you may be!

Thank you so much, everybody.


  1. MISA
    wow wow. i am so very happy for you.

  2. Was fun reading your blog - I like this post the best though. Have fun, good luck, much raburabu..

  3. wow---this almost feels like the end of an era!
    i enjoyed so much hearing about your escapades---

    in any case, a big CONGRATS---it is so cool that you are engaged to the man you love.

    I wish the two of you a life full of love and happiness!!


  4. Congratulations Misa, I'm very happy for you. :)

  5. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck! I can't believe you deleted all posts!

  6. Congrats! I'm sorry to hear that you won't be sharing any more fun stories with us but hope you'll be happy in your new life with your hot man.

  7. Wow, this is really lovely. Congratulations, I wish you luck and happiness in all your future endeavors ^^

  8. Wow !!! This is just amazing :O
    Thank you for your blog and have a happy life !

    Ehh.. I hope someday I will find someone I really love :>

  9. :O Congratulations, Misa! I'm so happy for you!

  10. WOW this was so UNEXPECTED! Congratulation :D

  11. please don't take this the wrong way: of course marriage isn't forever , especially today, but it does kinda mean that you'll be spending a LOT of time with only one person, making a life together: having meals together, cooking meals, keeping the house clean, maybe having kids, family holidays and celebrations and most importantly having sex with the same person . i'm might be very wrong in saying this, since I only know so little about you as a person : but to my understanding the guy doesn't even know that you had other bf while u were with him. and apart from that marriage in japan is different from what marriage in europe is like:the laws are different, the laws of divorce are different, the expectations a man has from a woman are diferent and the position a married woman has in society is different. i'm not saying this to be mean , i'm saying it because so many young ppl get married after such little time together, and end up getting divorced 3 years later when they discover that there are still loads of things they wanted to do before settling. and it's such a pity to go through all that when you could have just moved in together and stayed a few years like that to see what it's really like .
    in any case , the things I said may not even apply to your case, again since I know so little about you and ur relationship .
    so I guess I'll just end this comment with congratulations and I hope you are happy with whatever decision you end up making . all the best and I enjoyed your blog .

  12. It's so good to see you this happy Misa!
    I didn't quite understand if you're going to close this blog or just start anew, either way, I wish you all the best in your new life as an engaged girl!! <3

  13. Wow, I've only discovered your blog a couple of days ago..I'm so glad i'm a compulsive reader and got through it all on time XD. In this short period of time, you've changed my perspective on some things and got me to be a big more optimistic.

    Thank you and congratulations Misa!

  14. I'm so happy for you!!

  15. Hi Misa.
    Way to go with the favourite boyfriend! Congratulations!!

    I loved reading your blog and looked forward to new posts whenever I checked it. As a reader it's sad that checking your site won't be apart of my routine anymore, but it's a sweet ending :)

    Thanks for the insightful and entertaining reads!
    All the best to you both!!!

  16. I wish you could have at lest save the pictures of love hotels. Even if you took off all the personal parts. Reading about love hotels was the most interesting part of your blog.

  17. Congrats!! 感動しました! *_*

  18. I enjoyed reading your blog so much, and I'm really happy for you. Congratulations!

  19. Congratulations!
    I've been reading your blog for a while, but this is the first time I wrote something here.
    I really enjoyed your funny posts and will sure miss them.
    Wish you all the best.

  20. I'm so happy for you too! :)

  21. Wow...strange to say the least. No offense, but your blog has always been a little suspect to me and this just makes it even more so. If you really are telling the truth about everything, I hope it all works out for you.

  22. OH MY GOODNESS GRACIOUS!!! Congrats a thousand times over! Looks like this is the start of a brand new life, ね~ I wish you all the best ^-^

    You're such a good writer, I will truly miss your posts. If you ever want to come back and tell us about your wedding, please do ;)

    Again, congrats, congrats, congrats!!!

  23. Congratulations! I'm really happy to see you are happily engaged with the one that you love! And you didn't have to go through none of the crappy konkatsu activity LoL

    I felt that you were taking care of the sexy part of Tokyo so I could focus on the "marriage" part of Tokyo... may be we can switch the roles now ;)

    Congrats and have a happy engagement party!

  24. i've been reading your blog for a while but never commented (i'm a better lurker than anything else).

    congratulations! i'll miss looking for your sexy updates but of course, like everyone else, i'm happy that you're happy. keep up with your writing please, even if it isn't online for the public to read. you're a very good writer and a sweet girl :)

    peace, love, and happiness


    found your blog a few days ago, and im so glad i read it all before you ended it.

    Youve also changed my perspective on things and made me more open. Your entries were a great fun to read!

    once again, congrats! :D

  26. Enjoy your white picket fence and kitchen apron!

  27. First off, CONGRATULATIONS!

    Honestly, this is wonderful news!

    I had a lot of fun reading through your blog, and all the while I was rooting for "Favorite boyfriend". YAAH!

    Thank you for writing this blog, and goodluck with everything!


  28. Congratulations!

    Even though we had a lot of differing views, reading your blog opened my eyes and probably turned me into a more accepting person.
    It sounds ridiculous, I know, but it's true!

    I wish you two the best of luck!

  29. I am so happy for you and how everything turned out!

    Seriously, your blog read like a book and this seems like the perfect ending.

    (: I hope your blog does not end though! I'd love to hear about your new life. Congratulations.

  30. Oh wow! I've been lurking in the shadows for a good while now, thoroughly enjoying every aspect of your blog (even the lovey-dovey stuff). I'm sad to hear that this is the end of it.

    Couldn't you make a new blog about the cultural differences between fiancé and fiancée, or even husband and wife? I'd be so thrilled to hear how things turn out for you. But of course I understand that you'll have other priorities now, and I wish you all the best.


  31. Deleting your old posts was a mistake. I hope you just made them invisible. You, at least, need to be able to go back through and read them.

    You have my sympathies.

  32. Not going to lie, my jaw dropped!

    Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! I've been reading this blog only for a short time but read all the entries, and really, it was a truly entertaining read! I also feel like it's kind of made me more open as a person, but as a true romantic at heart I really hope this is your happy ending! You sound like you were almost made for each other, the way you described it ♥

    Perhaps you could start a new blog as a fiance/wife? For now though, I wish you all the best!

  33. Oh god no. Where are the posts. You had the best blog on the internet. Where am I now gonna find poligamy and grace at the same time.

  34. congratulations! Had some great time following you on your journey, your storys were always a good read

  35. I am a bit disappointed, but mostly because I fear that someday I'll end up getting married. I related to your enlightened promiscuity (as much as a guy can..) and now this has thrown a spanner into the works. Definitely a shock.

    Could you re-post the link to the other sexy encounters blog you put up a few days back? I enjoyed that woman's writing style but never bookmarked it. I'll miss you posts. You've helped my think about healthy, consensual sex in all sorts of new and exciting ways. Have a wonderful life.


  36. Congratulation! I'm really REALLY happy for you!

  37. From "Favorite Boyfriend" to "Only Boyfriend," to "Fiance. I'd say you "Sowed your oats!" Best wishes to the both of you!

  38. Wow!! That's so great for you!! I really hope you'll keep writing!! :D

    Congratulations!! I wish you two the best of luck. Have a wonderful life together!!!!

  39. definitely a big surprise, but nonetheless still very happy that you finally found that "someone" to make you feel happy enough to devote your lives together!

    updates would still be nice if you could :)
    after following you for so long, i would still read!

  40. wow i really enjoyed your blog and im so happy for you!!!!
    a big huge congrats

  41. i miss you, misa.
    you really changed my view on many things.

  42. Misa, are you completely done with your blog? If you're interested I'd like to buy it from you. You could retain posting rights and post whatever you want to (this is easy to do on Blogger). You could also edit any personal information and remove photos of you, if any. Let me know; you can reach me through the email address on my site. Thanks!

  43. No way!
    How come I just found this blog now??
    Well... Im happy for u anyway... even I didnt have the chance to ready your stories...

  44. This blog is fake.

  45. Congratulations! Ill miss the blog.
    I guess it's important to know when something reaches it's end. The best novels, stories - never end with any sense of closure. Though, for once, it's sounds like a great ending, and a wonderful beginning.

  46. Is she a guy?

    I'm thinking this blog was a girl, not a guy as suspected. Writing the female voice is as hard to fake as speaking it, because the thinking pattern is distinctive. Women writing in the male voice is much easier.

    Is the blog fantasy?

    Nope. It sounds like the female half of what a lot of us guys are getting up to.

    Will this blog finish?

    Maybe, but she won't stop writing. It's not so much that he doesn't know he's marrying a slut, (which he might be cool enough to handle,) but she hasn't been honest with him about who she is and what she's like, which means she doesn't really believe he would ever accept her as she really is. I would marry a slut if she could be frank about her feelings and honest and equal in her dealings. If I found out she'd been screwing around so much, I wouldn't mind that but I would mind that a) she couldn't be honest and b) had made such an effort to verify that she was the only girl I ever looked at. For relationships to last and create any value, they have to be honest and equal.

    I met Samehada with his partner at Shibuya when he visited recently, and it was so obvious that he and his partner knew each other, wanted to know and be known by each other. Real marriages aren't submissions to convention. They are unconditional decisions to support the person themself, regardless of other people's values or opinion. This isn't her marrying her husband. She's marrying her society.

    I think she should get some credit for being honest about the thoughts and feelings of a young woman in inner Tokyo. By writing it out, she forced herself to a level of self-awareness probably higher than many young women bother to achieve. I absolutely don't mind women screwing around as much as I do (although I don't need to know the details). I do mind that they pretend to be angels and insist on me pretending to be a one-woman man when they're banging around like pinball behind my back. It's not the behavior, but the hypocrisy and the way it paints a false picture of reality, a false picture of morality (i.e. compassionate action, rather than acceptable behaviour and modern manners,) and pressures other people into similarly denying who they really are.

    Deleting the blogs is an absolutely necessary step, because to enter this fantasy, she has to deny who she is. The alternative would have required her developing the necessary level of trust to tell her fiance who she really is and accept what's going on in his life too. Marriages only create value because of what you can know about each other. Not because of what you can't.

    More to the point, six months of being married to a japanese salariman company with it's attendant neglect and a logical progression of girl-think will solve that. Nope. Don't worry. Many more blogs to come. And the blog of a Japanese-Swedish wife who cheats on her husband (ID is probably already altered to cover) will be much more morally ambiguous than the last blog and much more challenging to readers' romantic prejudices.

    Posted by L'Harlequin on JapanLair

  47. wow - I wish you all the best for your marriage - I hope, you'll still have an exciting sexlife. your blog was the best inspiration for me. ^^
    greetings, P.